[ Unfortunately their fathers are very different people.
Sebastian is nodding along slowly with the first part of that, because yeah... he guesses that's kind of true. Pops has a whole fifty years more experience with everything than he does. He thinks that still sort of means everyone really would be better off with him here instead... but he also can't change that part, so all he has to work with is his own best.
At the second part, though, the feelings of inadequacy are rattling around in his head so loudly that the sentiment gets warped into "you're you and that's all you're gonna be" and he looks a little bit nauseated. ]
W-what if I'm not getting better, though? Not even just here, but at home. At my school, I really was the best, but ever since then... people are just proving me wrong all the time and making me look like an idiot and treating me like a joke! It's like I'm just... going backwards and getting worse and disappointing everybody...
You're looking at it all wrong! Getting stuff wrong doesn't mean you're going backwards, it's how you learn!
It's kinda like cooking: sure, you can read a recipe and kinda get it ok the first time? But the way to really learn how to make something new is to make it over and over again until you got it down perfectly. If you try to make bread, you won't know you're kneading it too hard until you've tried it once, yeah? No amount of describing it will make you perfect at making bread until you've tried it yourself and you can feel just how hard you should be kneading it.
Everything else in life's like that too: making mistakes is just how you learn 'oh, that way didn't work, let's try another way.'
[He's trying to be encouraging, he really is. But he's talking from a space where he's always been a fuck-up in some way, and it might hit differently for someone who's been a prodigy up until now.]
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Date: 2022-06-27 12:18 pm (UTC)Sebastian is nodding along slowly with the first part of that, because yeah... he guesses that's kind of true. Pops has a whole fifty years more experience with everything than he does. He thinks that still sort of means everyone really would be better off with him here instead... but he also can't change that part, so all he has to work with is his own best.
At the second part, though, the feelings of inadequacy are rattling around in his head so loudly that the sentiment gets warped into "you're you and that's all you're gonna be" and he looks a little bit nauseated. ]
W-what if I'm not getting better, though? Not even just here, but at home. At my school, I really was the best, but ever since then... people are just proving me wrong all the time and making me look like an idiot and treating me like a joke! It's like I'm just... going backwards and getting worse and disappointing everybody...
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Date: 2022-06-27 05:26 pm (UTC)It's kinda like cooking: sure, you can read a recipe and kinda get it ok the first time? But the way to really learn how to make something new is to make it over and over again until you got it down perfectly. If you try to make bread, you won't know you're kneading it too hard until you've tried it once, yeah? No amount of describing it will make you perfect at making bread until you've tried it yourself and you can feel just how hard you should be kneading it.
Everything else in life's like that too: making mistakes is just how you learn 'oh, that way didn't work, let's try another way.'
[He's trying to be encouraging, he really is. But he's talking from a space where he's always been a fuck-up in some way, and it might hit differently for someone who's been a prodigy up until now.]